The Universe had other plans...
Updated: Mar 25, 2020
Love is patient
I have been dreaming about my wedding day for as long as I can remember. My mum and I would watch 'Say Yes to the Dress' on the regular to decide on what kind of dress I would wear when my big day finally arrived.
When I met Robert just over five years ago at a boxing studio; his sense of humour pulled me in and I was immediately hooked. It was then and there that I really started planning the wedding I had always dreamed of - I had my groom! It then took Robert 4 years to finally propose - but I was patient. Kind of. Not really. But let's just pretend I was.
March 21, 2020 was the day we set for this joyous occasion! I had the day planned almost immediately after getting engaged with all of my vendors in place, the perfect dress picked out and all that was left to do was actually get married!
But, the Universe had other plans....
Love is kind
When I got wind of this new virus suddenly taking over many parts of the world and starting to effect every day life specifically in Ontario and Toronto, so close to our wedding day; I was devastated. The stress of refreshing news websites to see if event bans had been put into place and constantly hearing about the latest restrictions was so difficult. All I wanted was just one more week of normalcy to make it to our wedding. Robert listened as I gave him all the reasons why we should proceed with the wedding and held me as I cried when I'd even think about the option of postponing. He let me come to the realization on my own without offering his strong opinion and was overjoyed when I burst into the room after one of his work calls to tell him my decision. I felt an overwhelming sense of peace in that moment. We notified our loved ones about the wedding and the common theme of their responses was relief and genuine kindness. We are so lucky. Side note: we also hit the jackpot with the most amazing, understanding and kind wedding vendors that have gone above and beyond and out of their way to make sure the postponing process was as seamless as possible. I have huge respect for all of them and all small businesses in the industry and beyond.
Love always protects
Ultimately, as upsetting as it was, the decision to postpone was a no brainer. Our family and friends could get sick at our wedding. The end.
Love always trusts
As an event planner and lover of love; postponing our wedding day was tough (thank you and sorry to my family and friends who just listened to me cry for two full days). I could sit around and wonder why this was happening at this moment and why it was happening right before our wedding, or I could trust that there was a reason for all of this. I am not saying I wanted this pandemic to happen (never, ever, ever) or will be sad to see it in our past, but there have been so many moments that have come out of this that we would not have gotten otherwise. We get more time with our loved ones, whether you're living together or FaceTiming on the daily. We get to enjoy home cooked meals every day. We get to start something new that we've been meaning to get around to but haven't been able to find the time for (like this blog for me), and we get special, little moments to cherish for a lifetime. We get to slow down.
Love always hopes
When I talked to my parents on the phone leading up to having to make our decision; they told me to stop crying and to put things into perspective. My dad said "We're all healthy, you still love each other and you're still getting married, right?" and my mum said "It's not like you're being left at the altar, Paige!" - which ultimately made me laugh; but they were right. I still have Robert. He's my best friend and soul mate and I'm the luckiest to have him making me laugh at all hours of the day and for the rest of our lives.
Love always perseveres
We wanted to do something on March 21st to celebrate what would have been our wedding day. Originally we were still going to get officially married with our families by our sides but as guidelines and directives grew stronger to stay home and practice social distancing, the decision was easy again; it's not worth our families possibly getting sick. But we're pros at re-planning now, so...
We woke up that morning, spent a couple of hours drinking coffee and writing some super personal vows, got all dressed up and went down to the lake. We said our vows to each other, "tied the knot" around each other's fingers with some makeshift wedding bands (rope rings), laughed a lot and popped a bottle of champagne at a little Lake Ontario beach. It was perfect. We of course missed having our family and friends there to celebrate with us; but that day will come and it will be so much better! It was intimate and romantic and I will treasure that moment forever. On our way home we stopped at our favourite local restaurant, Mattachioni where the owner, Dave (who we have recently gotten to know) had a full spread prepared that he gifted to us to celebrate our unofficial wedding (so sweet). We got home, got right into our pyjamas (obviously) and ate a lot of pizza, cheese, bread, tiramisu, made some FaceTime calls to our parents and toasted with prosecco. It was seriously my dream night.
Special shout out to our matchmakers/friends/boxing coaches, Jen + Virgil for agreeing to come with us to the lake and capture the moment (from a distance, for real) in photos and video that we now have to share with our loved ones and add to our future wedding album.
Love never fails
The plan for our postponed wedding is still up in the air (with a tentative new date) because of all this uncertainty and how things change each day; but we are so grateful for this weird and upsetting experience because it has taught us so much. It taught us to slow down and really reflect on what is more important than an event; our families, our friends and our relationship and how much love we have for all of the above.
Love endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:7)
Stay home and take that extra time to reflect on what is important in life.
P.S If you are a couple that is in the process or thinking about postponing your wedding; please feel free to reach out to me. I am here to talk, listen and offer any support you may need in navigating the postponing process.